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  • Terri K. Lankford, LPCS, NCC, LCAS

The Problem with Happiness

How do you define happiness? Do you think it’s an algorithm? You know like .. “once I get X then I’ll be happy!” Or “when Y happens then B aligns and that = happiness!” If so.... How has that been working out for you?! See the thing is, That IS the problem with Happiness. That most of us believe we’re UNhappy BECAUSE that algorithm I just mentioned is the way we think. Because we’re always waiting. Waiting to get X. And then when we obtain or achieve that thing... well, then what? It sounds clichè .. but happiness truly is in the PROCESS. If you can be mindful, pay attention, and ENJOY the work you’re putting into it to have nice things or do amazing things... THEN, maybe you’ll achieve happiness. Because life. Because we’re constantly upgrading (hopefully) our problems. Because the ACTION of solving those problems... THAT is Happiness. Once you can ACCEPT that YOU create your own happiness through the way you THINK about things... not playing the victim role and not blaming others... YOU. Well then You’ve got the secret sauce! 💫

Got that? Happiness = the ACTION of Problem Solving (and obtaining better, slightly better problems along the way!) SO!! All that being said.. First, how are your problem solving skills? Then, How are you RE-defining Happiness for yourself AND What is making YOU happy today??? 💭

Me? I get to be happy today because I get to decide how to prioritize my three page my to-do list. I get to figure out how I'll make time to get my exercise in. I get to problem solve new ways to make money and continue to learn and grow. Amongst the many other actions my brain will do today that only if I'm mindful, will I notice! What do you get to allow yourself to do IN THE PROCESS today?


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I’m Terri Kiser Lankford, owner of the Rise & Thrive Counseling Practice, a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (in NC), and the host here at Rise & Thrive Counseling, PLLC and the Embrace| Overcome|CreateYourLife Blog.


I’m also an entrepreneur, Syltherin, foodie on a fitness journey, complete book nerd, photography novice who happens to think music is life. 


Warning! This site is about motivation, health & wellness, and self love.  but its also about various mental health issues and may talk about subjects such as suicide, self-harm and other touchy subjects at some point. This site is not intended for youth and may be “too much” to some.


Nothing on this site should be considered a medical recommendation. I am not a doctor. Anything of interest should be discussed with your doctor or therapist, or me (in person) if you are my current client.  No guarantee of accuracy is expressed or implied. (Sorry, I have to say that.)


All writing and mental health information here are accurate to the best of my knowledge at the time of publication. However, keep in mind my opinion, and available information, changes over time.

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